July 2011
61 posts
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Pianycist's Response to Compromise: the Key to an... →
You’ve already read it, but Asexual News put it on its front page.
Compromise: The key to relationships Between an... →
pianycist:
How about RESPECTING BOUNDARIES and BEING CONSCIENTIOUS OF PARTNERS’ BOUNDARIES?
“The Asexual partner should not expect the sexual partner to give up intercourse.”
The sexual partner should not expect any potential partner to provide them with sex. Period. Having that expectation is rape culture. And demisexuality needs to be brought up, because demis can have relationships with...
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Is Compromise the Key to an Asexual/Sexual...
I don't like writing relationship advice articles because I'm hardly an expert. Nevertheless, it does happen from time to time. People come to my site looking for advice. I may feel that the ace resources section is a better place to find specific advice, but at the same time I feel obligated to answer them.
If you click on the link below, you'll see my most recent attempt. What advice would you give?
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No need to attribute every Anti-Asexual Statement...
I love it when I see people attributing all anti-Asexual attitudes to Dan Savage. To be fair, he’s said plenty that’s offensive or just outright idiotic, but we don’t need to make up things he’s said. Dan Savage, to my knowledge, has never said Asexuals aren’t queer. He’s more or less accused Asexuals of trying to trap sexuals into relationships and made an...
Burning As An Island Star: raumlet: Invisibility... →
raumlet:
Invisibility is oppression! - unless you’re asexual.
Having to explain or defend your sexuality is oppression! - unless you’re asexual.
Being told “how do you know if you haven’t done x” is oppression! - unless you’re asexual.
Corrective rape is oppression! - unless you’re…
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Full Text of the Mark Carrigan Interview (He's a...
Hi Shawn*, Sorry about the delay with these. I’m not asexual & I talk about that below. One thing - is it possible to change the first question to exclude reference to my house mate at the time? I’ve given a general answer for how meeting two asexual friends got me started on studying asexuality. I’ve also skipped question 5 because I think I cover it in the first two. 1)...
There's an Asexual Gamer's Network Now
My first thoughts when encountering this are irrelevant. There are probably plenty of other gamers out there who are looking for other Aces to game with. The link to my article is here. The link most of you are interested in is at the bottom of this post.
What is this...: Asexual Sex-Positive Feminists →
reanimatrix:
Why would a feminist hate sex? The idea that women hate sex is actually an incredibly sexist idea. Most of my female friends who ARE sexual are just as sexual as any man.
This statement, while responding to something I did not say, sums up the argument My point, however, was that I separated asexual feminists and sex positive feminists as though they were necessarily opposing...
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Asexual Sex-Positive Feminists
I looked at one of my earlier posts and realized I had separated these two as if they were separate.
Because trying to clarify my position will only get me into trouble, I’m inviting Asexual-Sex Positive Feminists to reblog and share their viewpoint.
(Note: It seems to be a mistake created by poor wording on my part. I do not wish to compound my earlier mistake, however.)
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The mechanic was right. The head gasket was blown
This is a tale of what not to do with a car you’ve just bought. Of course, the car is getting repaired and is not quite as bad as I feared. It’s even better that it’s out of the hands of the garage who had it. For various reasons, I still do not trust the owner. You do not look worried when a customer tells you someone else is going to look over a car unless you do not have...
Our trolls suck! "Most of them are teens and young...
dreadfulsweet:
David Jay is 29 (if you wanna make a bet that he’ll completely renounce asexuality in less than a year, I doubt you’d win). Swankivy (youtube) is 33. There’s a whole section on AVEN for older aces. Just looking quickly at the ages of some AVEN members, I found: 41, 46, 60, 58, 58, 52, 49, 61….. But let’s ignore facts, shall we?
And I’m 34. As Berke Breathed once said,...
I'm not sure I understand the focus on Michelle...
I’ve seen several stores from prominent LGBT sites covering her and her husband. Many of these articles are written with the premise that she is a serious presidential contender. While Marcus Bachmann may be engaging in activities I disapprove of, I follow politics enough to know that there is no way Bachmann is going to win. She’s simply far too extreme.
O Mercy... Im a Boy: Now For a Touchy Subject: Dan... →
justasilly:
I read the Dan Savage asexuality column. I listened to the podcast. And i see nothing wrong with whatever he said. Savage, at worst, is wording things with a vulgar or rude connotation, which, if you have ever read/listened to Dan Savage, is all based upon his sense of humor.
He was asking…
Your poblem here is that you have only read one Dan Savage column on Asexuality....
Speak friend and enter: Day 7 - Who’s your... →
moonshoestessa:
Favorite Doctor? You’re asking me to pick ONE Doctor? That is MADNESS! I can’t pick one! D: I love the three that I’ve watched so far too much to single out one of them. I mean, Nine introduced me to space and time travel, Ten made me grin at the Harry Potter and Lion King references and Eleven is…
There’s no doubt. The one, true Doctor is Tom Baker.
Adventures of an Ace Reporter: Hi, I'm Asexual.... →
sofiastry:
captainheartless:
ace-reporter:
… actually, I’m not so sure about the last part. My sad devotion to the rules of the English language not withstanding, I have a hard time seeing what is wrong with things like Equal work for equal pay. However, I’m not about to go out and join in a feminist rally.
If you’re wondering what bought…
You are responding to someone who seems to think...
Random thoughts of a Biromantic Ace: I can't help... →
insertsomethinwittyhere:
About the demographics of the readers of Asexual News. And you know, it’s kinda weird, because having browsed through countless sites on the web, I have often wondered about who is working on the site, behind the scenes. And now that I’m in that position, I wonder about who is reading the site….
I’ve wondered this, too. The Alexa Toolbar will collect some...
Adventures of an Ace Reporter: Hi, I'm Asexual.... →
captainheartless:
ace-reporter:
… actually, I’m not so sure about the last part. My sad devotion to the rules of the English language not withstanding, I have a hard time seeing what is wrong with things like Equal work for equal pay. However, I’m not about to go out and join in a feminist rally.
If you’re wondering what bought…
You are responding to someone who seems to think that every...
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Hi, I'm Asexual. I'm Male. I Eat Meat, And I'm NOT...
… actually, I’m not so sure about the last part. My sad devotion to the rules of the English language not withstanding, I have a hard time seeing what is wrong with things like Equal work for equal pay. However, I’m not about to go out and join in a Feminist rally.
If you’re wondering what bought this one, Aaron’s Holy Mountain posted a follow-up to his recent...
NLGTF, Creating Change & the Ace Community →
writingfromfactorx:
epochryphal:
ace-reporter:
The news article about this is here. [snip]
So, I attended Creating Change this past February 2011, and chatted with several folks there about why asexuality wasn’t included and the history of the conference. Hopefully my intel is useful.
If you take a look at past schedules (here’s the archive, and here’s the 2011 program), it’s fairly...
article on asexuality or lack thereof *eyeroll* →
captainheartless:
lazchan:
This entire article just pisses me off. I can’t even think of a polite response to it, especially with the commentary. I showed it to a non-ace friend and even she was annoyed with the way the guy wrote. Just… argh.
I love how one of his arguments almost seems like: Asexual men don’t exist, because if a man was asexual he would be feminine/a feminist (because those...
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Jong, Alternet and Asexuality misused -- I think I...
I’ve ignored Erica Jong’s New York Times piece where she suggests hypersexualization has caused the act of sex to become passe. Although I do not have a landmark book credited to me, the point is that this statement is true. It had nothing to do with Asexuality as far as I could tell. If Jong’s statement had been left as intended, I may not have had an article in the first...
67) I want to go out and buy more girl clothes,...
This is a double standard also. Women aren’t given a second look when they try on men’s clothes.
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To all the people following me because I'll post...
I do not mean to disappoint you. I will post dieselpunk pictures because I personally appreciate the aesthetic, but you must remember that the purpose of this Tumblr is to focus on Asexual thoughts and ramblings and to provide additional, personal commentary that I cannot provide on Asexual News. (You may have noticed my icon.)
I’m almost positive that Asexuality is in no way related to an...
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Freaking Incompetent Mechanic
The car saga continues, but at least I have a better clue that was wrong. For some reason, the car has a new water pump. I didn’t get charged for the water pump, but I didn’t tell them to put one in either. As annoying as this is, it’s not the worst bit.
The mechanic has been telling me for over a week that I need a new head gasket or have a cracked engine block because it is...
Gynecologist (perhpas unintentially) denies... →
It seems that the link I’ve put in is not the link that this is supposed to go to.
This is your editor speaking.
Well gee, I only joined tumblr two days ago, therefore I wasn’t on here when you posted this… Wait a minute, I can edit your tumblr blog???
No, but you can make submissions to it, which is a feature Facebook and Twitter don’t have.
Letters to an Asexual #8 →
I probably should have just linked to Swankivy’s video, but the video player does not handle this feature well. If you haven’t yet encountered Swankivy’s Letters to an Asexual video, you should go back and look through it.
Ace Admiral: In Re: Your Enquiry about Systematic... →
David Jay, Andrew Hinderliter and even Shawn Landis would all be surprised to find out that Asexual men don’t exist.
aceadmiral:
To all the “systematic oppression” anons:
Thank you for your enquiry. I presume you come out on Friday nights specifically because you know I will be free Saturday mornings to use my entire morning to write you a long rebuttal, and I appreciate the...
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Asexual News Seems to Be Unable to Link Its Own...
The old problem of the site being reposted as spammy or abusive seems to have cropped up. I can understand that sometimes people have a hard time dealing with Asexuality. I also understand sometimes people may not bother to click on the link and read what was actually said. Such people may think the headlines are indicatie of the position witout realizing the whole article.
Regardless of the...
Here’s some info on Jack Harkness.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_Harkness
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Ace Answers -- An Asexual Awareness Week Project... →
Personally, I have my doubts about this project, but I’m no expert on podcasting. If you think you can help them out why not see if they can use you?
Casting questions into the deep: How to Love Your... →
findingsherlock:
I’ve been meaning to write on this topic for a while, but I wanted this to be more than my usual positive pieces on asexuality and love, and more of a real analysis of how exactly I’ve experienced loving an asexual while not being one.
In the end, I realize that I will never…
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If you need to read Asexual News at Work →
I registered cakenews.info shortly after registering Asexualnews.com. The site isn’t promoted under the .info domain, but it will let people get into the site without worrying about filters. It also means people have made offers to buy cake related domains. If I had the cash, I’d buy them and turn them into Asexual Awareness sites.
From Asexual New's Asexuality 101 Section
I realize you’d prefer if I would just post them in their entirety, but that would not acheive my goals of getting more traffic to the site. I’m not toing to tag this one as Asexual though.
Asexuals are Broken
Asexuality ans Asperger’s Syndrome — Correlation is not Causality
Extrapolate! Extrapolate! →
I love today’s fourth panel
I hate dan savage
but-for-the-grace:
so
much
“how long have you been asexual” are you as a gay man seriously asking someone this
Unfortuantely, no Asexual will probably ever have the chance to ask Savage “How long have you been a self-righteous moron?”
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NLGTF Creating Change Panel Turns Down AVEN...
The news article about this is here. I understand that the NLGTF has a political agenda that Asexuals on the whole do not. Nevertheless, the response I received from the NLGTF seems to be a clear case of people who do not want Asexuals in included in their part of the LGBT movement.
As I write this I am a little angry and my thoughts are disjointed. I want to call this a case of Asexual...
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Her Name Is Helen: Savage Love Interview with... →
lizziegoneastray:
mylittlehazmat:
ace-reporter:
When I see Savage mentioning Asexuality I normally wince. If I were to say I had respect for the way he presents his opionion, I would be telling a lie. However, AVEN founder David Jay appeared in a recent podcast to discuss…
I’m working on a summary of the interview that will appear on Asexual News shortly. In the meantime, it...
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Savage Love Interview with David Jay (Trigger...
When I see Savage mentioning Asexuality I normally wince. If I were to say I had respect for the way he presents his opionion, I would be telling a lie. However, AVEN founder David Jay appeared in a recent podcast to discuss Asexuality with the Gay Agony Aunt*
Go Check It Out.
*Is it unacceptable for me to refer to Savage as an Agony Aunt?
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Two Good Stories on Asexualnews.com today
Is Sex Necessary for a Romantic Relationship?
http://asexualnews.com/index.php/asexuality-101/331-is-sex-necessary-for-a-romantic-relationship
This is an Asexuality 101 topic so you may have read it many times before, but it is a question that keeps recurring on AVEN, Tumblr and elsewhere.
The LGBT Community is the Asexual Community’s Strongest Natural Ally
If you are an Asexual and do...
privilegedenyingasexuals:
Do I lose my membership in the Asexual Cabal of Evil (ACE) if I have little to no idea who Jack Harkness is?
Reblogging the Privilege Denying Asexual is not an indication that I agree with him. Its hard to agree or disagree with him since I don’t know what his default position actually is. (I don’t think his blog is to be taken at face value. I...
Something else that should be stated:
polisci-prelaw:
Some who fall under the asexual umbrella have kinks.
I personally have a thing for D/s and bondage.
This doesn’t invalidate our asexuality; it doesn’t even invalidate someone’s celibacy, should they choose to be celibate, because these things are not exclusively in the realm of sex.
There’s nothing inherently sexual about bondage or D/s, nor is sexual attraction to one’s...
A realization
I think I may have actually *been* the first person to dedicate myself to covering Asexuals and Asexual topics. Anyone out there have a better grasp on the history here?
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Why aren't Asexuals mentioned in sex education... →
The sad thing is that this is all too common in many fields of life.
Defying belief.: Okay, I'm sorry . . . (Trigger... →
niksilp:
cardinal-bitchface:
rosieposieolie:
niksilp:
ace-reporter:
amazingatheist:
But are we going to pretend that asexuality is a real thing? Have we, the liberal-minded crowd, decided that anytime a group of people tosses the word sexual at the end of a word, we have to go along with it? And don’t get me wrong, I’m not advocating hatred against asexuals. I’m not saying they…
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